Purpose Statement

MOPS Purpose Statement: MOPS International exists to encourage, equip and develop every mother of preschoolers to realize her potential as a woman, mother and leader in the name of Jesus Christ.

Friday, August 29, 2008

Related to Ps Lloyds talk on Fatherhood/Husbands today

This is not from Ps Lloyd directly (I will post his notes here as soon as I get them) but I thought it tied in nicely. It is taken from a magazine called Parents Inc (NZ publication)

What Men Wished Their Women Knew About Them
By Ian Grant

Did you know?...

• Despite their “in control” exterior, men often feel like imposters and are insecure that their inadequacies will be discovered
• Men would rather feel alone and unloved than inadequate and disrespected
• The idea of someone thinking he cant cut it is humiliating – a feeling ever man wants to avoid at all costs
• Anger is sometimes a man’s response to feeling disrespected
• A man’s uncertainty about his adequacy usually takes its greatest toll at work
• “Performance anxiety doesn’t end when we walk through the front door” as one man put it. For a man bluffing his way through this being-a-husband thing, it is an incredible relief when he discovers that his wife feels loved and happy and that she publicly honours him and his ‘husbanding abilities’
• You should assume the best. If a man is not helping with the kids or the cleaning, you shouldn’t assume he is choosing not to help, but start with the assumption that he genuinely doesn’t see a task to be done
• Procrastinating on a home task may be a signal that he’s about to emotionally or physically crash
• A man will internalise your disappointment as a personal failure to provide what you need
• A man’s heart is powerfully touched by a few simple words of respect

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Reminder: Operation Christmas Child COLLECTION TIME

Hi all

Our theme for this year is The Home Factor: Begin Here Go There

Just a reminder that we are getting close to the end of collection time for items for the Operation Christmas Child shoeboxes.

These shoe boxes are a practical example in something starting from the Home and reaching out to others in the world. In this case children in poverty, without family, often from parts of the world experiencing war and/or natural disasters.

Please bring any items you wish to include in the MOPS at MBC shoeboxes along to the meetings on 29 August, 12 Sept, and 10 Oct. Items will not be collected via MOPS after this point.

Remember to choose items suitable for either a Boy or Girl in one of the following age categories (2-4, 5-9, 10-14)

**** For those of you that may have sent a shoe box in previous years, please note that this year there have been some changes to what can and can't be included. Today at MOPS (29 August) you would have received the latest Operation Christmas Child brochure with all the details. Please read and adhere to these regulations.

Suggested items to include:

TOYS: small cars, balls, dolls, yo-yo, harmonica, skipping rope, slinky etc. NOTHING WITH BATTERIES
SCHOOL SUPPLIES: oens, pencils, sharpeners, crayons, stamps and ink pads, coloring books, picture books etc NOTHING THAT LEAKS SUCH AS GLUE ETC
HYGIENE ITEMS: toothbrush, mild bar soap (in a plastic bag), comb, washcloth NOTE YOU CAN NO LONGER INCLUDE TOOTHPASTE OR ANY OTHER LIQUID
OTHER: Tshirts, socks, baseball caps, sunglasses, hairclips, watches
A PERSONAL NOTE: can include a letter and photo of your children/family. May include your contact details so the child can write to you

DO NOT INCLUDE: batteries or battery operated toys, used or damaged items, war related items such as toy guns, knives or military cars or figurines etc, no lollies of chocolate or food of any kind, no liquids or lotions, no medications or vitamins, nothing breakable such as snowglobes or glass containers, no aerosol cans

October 10 will be the last date for collection.

This allows time for the shoeboxes to be sent O/S and arrive in time for a child to open on Christmas day.

Thank you for helping us bless these children who otherwise would get nothing on this day.

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Sunshine Coast PND support Group website....

Check out the latest from the lovely Lisa Lindley....
one of our "On The Couch" contributing psychologists and occasional guest speaker at MBC MOPS

the NEW Sunshine Coast PND support Group website

Saturday, August 23, 2008

15 August - Come Fly With Me

Theme: Come Fly With Me
We had the room set up like a plane, with seats in rows facing the front with centre aisle. The team came dressed as Cabin Crew for the morning (and our Co-ordinator Karen took on the role of Captain ....singlehandedly landing the plane after another problem free flight on MOPS Airline Flight 123)

Speaker: Sarah shared about her 13 years as a flight attendant and her journey to motherhood (Sarahs notes to be added)

Morning Tea: In Flight meal served up by the lovely cabin crew

In Flight Movie: watched the Dwelling DVD Home Tours segment called Under the Welcome Mat about Hospitality

Craft: A teabag with a little note, as an encouragement to send to a friend.

August 1 - Outing to Landsborough Park

Thanks to all the Mums that joined us at Pioneer Park Landsborough on Friday August 1 for a lovely morning in the park. Was great to get out in the sunshine and meet everyone's children. If anyone has any photos from the day that they are happy for me to post please let me know. I was too busy chasing my little man and stopping him from eating tim-tams/sand/dirt/bark/dog-poo/food belonging to other children or running in front of swings/falling down stairs/off ladders/insert any other inappropriate or unsafe thing you can think of ...... to take any photos.

I think I can multi-task with the best of them but taking great photos and supervising an active 15mth old on the loose in the park ....nuh uh ..

Friday, August 15, 2008

Recent MOPS Conference

Here is a little taste of what we got up to at the recent MOPS Leaders Conference at the Gold Coast last weekend.
Yes that IS us under all that makeup. "Why on Earth are we dressed as Mimes?" I can hear you all saying and "Yeah that's about the only time they are silent : ) " ........or was that just our husbands saying that?
Well, (and I hope I am not letting the cat out of the bag here??) the theme for 2009 is Adventures in Mothering (great theme!)and one part of the logo has a rollercoaster ride and Big Top etc. So one of the evenings at conference involved dressing in costume related to this theme ...and we won a prize for our efforts too.
We also did lots of hard work at Conference, learning a lot from other MOPS groups, sharing ideas of topics and how we all do things. Great to hear new ideas and be assured we are on track and doing great stuff here at MOPS at MBC.
We also had the privilege of listening to several sessions from Shelly Radic who is an author and Director of Group Life at MOPS International (all the way from Colorado, USA). She is an amazing speaker and I think had us all in tears of both laughter and sorrow at various times over the weekend. Mental note to me to pack tissues next year.
Overall it was both an exhausting and refreshing weekend (if that's possible) and we hope to bring everything we learnt and have been inspired by back to our MOPS Mums here at MOPS at MBC.

Theme Scripture

Psalm 139

1 You have searched me, LORD, and you know me.
2 You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3 You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways.
4 Before a word is on my tongue you, LORD, know it completely.
5 You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too lofty for me to attain.

7 Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence?
8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10 even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around me,”
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day,
for darkness is as light to you.

13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand — when I awake, I am still with you.

19 If only you, God, would slay the wicked! Away from me, you who are bloodthirsty!
20 They speak of you with evil intent; your adversaries misuse your name.
21 Do I not hate those who hate you, LORD, and abhor those who are in rebellion against you?
22 I have nothing but hatred for them; I count them my enemies.
23 Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.
24 See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.

Annual MOPS Participation Fee

The annual MOPS Participation Fee of $10 assists MOPS Australia in covering the cost of training for Regional Coordinators to help other MOPS groups to develop around Australia. It also allows more MOPS group leaders around Australia to access regional training.

This will go a long way to helping MOPS Australia bring MOPS to more Mums around Australia.

When you register for MOPS each year, you will be handed an Annual Participation Fee form, and we ask that if you are able to pay this $10 participation fee, please do so before the end of April 2011.

The payment options are...
1. Direct Debit to MOPS Australia bank account
2. Credit card
3. Cheque payable to MOPS Australia
4. Cash to MOPS@MBC front desk

Thank you, from the MOPS@MBC team.

How did MOPS begin?

It was a Tuesday morning, at about 9.30. They each had faced spilled cereal, tangled hair, and a few had even been forced to change their outfits due to a last-minute baby throw-up on a shoulder or lap. They had driven, or pushed strollers, to the church and had dropped their little ones off in the creche. They had made it!

And now they sat, knees almost touching, in the circle of children's chairs from the Sunday school room. Hands held hot cups of tea and biscuits in utter freedom because this treat did not have to be shared with a child's sticky fingers. Mouths moved in eager, uninterrupted conversation. Eyes sparkled with enthusiasm. Hearts stirred with understanding. Needs were met.

That morning in 1973, was the first morning of MOPS, or Mothers of Preschoolers. Little was it known that from this small beginning in a church in Colorado, USA, the seeds of the MOPS concept and format had been planted. The needs of the women were met even then, through the opportunity for friendship, creative outlet and spiritual emphasis. MOPS International now charters approximately 2,500 MOPS groups in churches in the United States and 13 other countries throughout the world.

How did MOPS begin in Australia?

How did MOPS begin in Australia?

Nineteen years later and thousands of kilometres away, the same mutual need for sharing was realised by a group of mums with children under school age in Melbourne. After reading about the MOPS concept in the US, leaders introduced the program to the Clayton Church of Christ Fellowship in early 1990 and MOPS was born in Australia. From this small beginning, the seeds for future growth were planted, resulting in the formation of an affiliated body to support the ever-increasing number of Australian groups and the mums they served.

Since its formation in June 2000, MOPS Australia, Inc has grown rapidly and there are currently over 100 groups throughout Australia. In the last year alone, 35 new groups have commenced, with groups starting up regularly throughout different Christian denominations. Groups now meet in every state and territory in Australia, with an estimated ministry to approximately 2500 mums and 3000 children.

How did MOPS begin at MBC?

A Brief History of MOPS at MBC by Karen Askey-Doran (COordinator of MOPS til 2008 and currently Regional Coordinator).

In 1999, the leader of MBC’s women’s ministry caught the vision of MOPS. At that time I was a new Mum with little inclination to help; I was interested but not convicted!

Roughly a year later another meeting was held to generate interest. At this time I had another little baby girl, a 16-month-old toddler and, although I was unaware of it, Post Natal Depression. And once again people were interested but not compelled to lead.

In 2005 Holly, caught the vision of MOPS and began to sow the seeds of interest throughout the young Mums in our church. Robyn Robertson came to our first meeting and inspired us into action…the seeds Holly planted took hold!

People came slowly at first to fill the positions, it seemed there were a lot of blanks for a long time! Holly was going to be our Coordinator and when she filled out the charter she realised that a Mother of Preschoolers should really fill that role…. So she called me! Very graciously, Holly took a side step into a Mentoring role (very appropriate really).

God was moving in our midst, we had been blessed with an inspired team of 15 Mops Leaders and 9 Moppets Leaders, each one having a testimony about how God had lead them to this ministry!

I suspect that God has big plans for our group. I still feel very inadequate sometimes but I do trust God and I want to serve him and to reach out to Mums who are hurting, to support them. I want to encourage, you know, to build up… to make a difference in people’s lives, especially my children’s!

I know I’m not alone… In Romans 8:28 it says “we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” He planned for my girls, my twins, my battle with PND. He planned for MOPS - at this time - in our church! The door has literally been flung open!

What happens at a MOPS meeting?

When a mum enters a MOPS meeting, she is greeted by a friendly face and escorted to MOPPETS, where her children enjoy their special part of the MOPS program. In MOPPETS, children from infancy through to school age experience a caring environment while they learn, sing, play and make crafts.

Once her children are settled, the MOPS mum joins a program tailor-made to meet her needs. She can grab something to eat and not have to share it! She can finish a sentence and not have to speak in words of two syllables!

The program typically begins with a brief lesson taught by an older mum who's been through the challenging years of mothering and who can share from her experience and from the truths taught in the Bible. Then the women move into small discussion groups where there are no "wrong answers" and each mum is free to share her joys and struggles with other mums who truly understand her feelings. In these moments, long-lasting friendships are often made on the common ground of finally being understood.

From here, the women participate in a craft or other creative activity. For mums who are often frustrated by the impossibility of completing anything in their unpredictable days, this activity is deeply satisfying. It provides a sense of accomplishment and growth for many mums.

Because mums of preschoolers themselves lead MOPS, the program also offers women a chance to develop their leadership skills and other talents. It takes organisation, creativity, and management skills to run a MOPS program successfully.

By the time they finish the MOPS meeting and pick up their children, the mums feel refreshed and better able to mother. MOPS helps them recognise that mums have needs too! And when they take the time to meet those needs, they find they are more effective in meeting the needs of their families.

Meeting the needs of Mothers of Preschoolers

The MOPS program is dedicated to meeting the needs of mothers of preschoolers. These needs have been identified by Elisa Morgan and Carol Kuykendall in their book, What Every Mum Needs:

The need for Identity: Sometimes I'm not sure who I am

The need for Growth: Sometimes I long to develop who I am

The need for Relationship: Sometimes I long to be understood

The need for Help: Sometimes I need to share the load

The need for Perspective: Sometimes I lose my focus

The need for Hope: Sometimes I wonder if there's more to life

Here's How Some Mums Describe MOPS

"MOPS means that I am able to share the joys and frustrations and insecurities of being a mum. Our meetings provide the opportunity to hear someone else say, "I was up all night," or "They're driving me crazy!"

MOPS mum, Perth

"As a single mum, this is the first group I've felt accepted in for who I am."

MOPS mum, Canberra

'On my first day at MOPS, I knew my life had changed forever! The women made me feel so relaxed. I had a peace I hadn't felt for a long time. They were so caring, pleasant, helpful…the list goes on! I just want to say, "Thank you MOPS!" If it weren't for MOPS, I wouldn't be where I am today.'

MOPS mum, Melbourne

'When I first started MOPS, I was very, very lonely. MOPS gave me a chance to get out of the house which I was grateful for. The talks were very informative. I found out a lot through these talks. My problems seemed to become smaller. When I first started at MOPS, I thought I was a Christian. I wasn't. Through MOPS I can now say, 'I am a Christian.' MOPS to me is not only Mothers of Pre Schoolers, but My Own Private Salvation!'

MOPS mum, Canberra