Saturday, May 30, 2009
Thanks for your patience as I work through/catch up on the session summaries:
* March 20 - Identity: Personality Types
* April 3 - Easter (Ps Phil)
* May 1: Growth - Growth Intro DVD, Mothers Day, pampering, manicures, decadence
* May 15: Growth - WOW Panel
* May 29: Growth - Nature, Gardening, Composting and Worm Farming, Floristry Demo
UPDATE: THESE ARE NOW ADDED, THE BLOG IS UP TO DATE. THANKS FOR YOUR PATIENCE
Friday, May 29, 2009
Topic: Growth cont... (Part III)
Worms can be purchased from various sources - one company is called Worms Downunder. Dr Paul Harrey 162 Glenview Rd Ph 5439 6349 or see www.wormsdownunder.com.au
A quick postscript on the topic of composting and reducing waste: I was reading that Australians throw away 3 million tonnes of food every year. That is $5 billion dollars worth. And get this - at a local household level it has been estimated that:
Australian discard up to 20% of the food they purchase.
This is the equivalent of buying five bags of groceries and throwing one away.
Crazy isn't it!
Planet Arks "Save Food Stop Waste" campaign recommends composting organic waste, creating a meal plan and shopping list, buying less, using what you buy sensibly, looking for ways to store things longer. See more information at savefoodstopwaste.com
Creative Activity: Todays craft was a Floristry Demo by the very talented Pauline S (who works part time as a florist). Pauline showed us several ways to arrange flowers and foliage (traditional, modern etc) and gave lots of handy tips if wanting to do a floral arrangement at home (ways to line the container to make it waterproof, how to cut stems on an angle, wiring stems, positioning of the items, where to source the foam and flowers etc). Pauline's demo was followed by MOPS mums learning how to wire up and decoratively wrap gerbras with paper and ribbon etc. Thank you Pauline for sharing your floristry skills and talent with us this morning.
M/Tea Theme: Flowers
Finally, a thankyou to everybody for allowing MOPS to finish up a little earlier than usual and to our speakers who had to cut their talks short to accommodate this change. The Team members, MOPPETS carers and MOPS mums who were then able to attend the funeral at MBC today were very appreciative.
SOME ADDITIONAL INFO FROM SANDIE POST MEETING:
I emailed Sandie to clarify a few points from my notes.
Where can we buy compost bins?
Compost bins can be bought through council if you wish but they only have one style and it’s rather large. I would recommend checking out your local hardware store as they tend to have a range of compost bins where people can chose the system that suits them best.
Does council sell worms and worm farms? Or where can we get them from and which type do you recommend?
Council don’t sell worm farms but I would recommend getting the ‘Can of
Why is it best to have compost AND worm farm working in tandem and how do the two work together or how does the user makes them work as a system – you did mention but I didnt capture in my notes sorry.
It’s certainly not essential but I prefer to have a compost bin and a worm farm working together as the compost can take the bulk of your food scraps and your garden waste. The worm farm will take a small amount of food scraps to start with until the population grows. With a compost bin you can keep layering it up as you need to dispose of food scraps where as you need to wait until the worms have almost finished the old food before placing the next lot in. So keep them both close to each other and when you take your scraps out check the worm farm and give it only a little food as it needs it and throw the rest in the compost bin. Worm farms give a very high quality product to use on the garden, both solid and liquid forms of fertiliser. While the solids are great to use straight on the garden you may want to water down the liquid. The liquid should look like a weak cup of tea… not an espresso coffee.
And finally Sandie - some of the mums wanted to know what are councils rules about chooks. Do you know or can you point me in the right direction and I will add it to our website so the mums that want to can chase it up. Thanks.
The rules for keeping chickens vary depending on which part of the
THANKS SANDIE - an excellent session - learnt heaps and you inspired us all to be a little greener!
THANKS SANDIE - an excellent session - learnt heaps and you inspired us all to be a little greener!
Friday, May 15, 2009
generously shared their collective wisdom with us - wisdom gathered from many years of motheringSo those of us that are a little newer at it
can learn from them
and get some guidance and support and encouragement
on our Adventure of Motherhood
Guest Speakers: Wiser Older Women panel
Morning Tea Theme: Things that grow (fruit, bread, popcorn etc)
Craft: Felt Height Charts
We invited three lovely "Wiser Older Women" (Marie, Lyn & Kate) to join us at MOPS this morning for a WOW panel exploring the topics of The Adventure of Motherhood, Identity and Growth etc.
Here are some notes from the morning:
Q 1: Is there any advice they have gathered from their own journey of motherhood that they can share with us today
- Realise you don't have to have control
- Don't compare yourself to others. What works for them and their family may not work for you
- Friends and support are important
- Getting out of the house while an effort is always worth it
- Take some advice given but not all
- Don't think you're a failure as mum
- Talk to others
- Realise tour children are a gift from God
- Children are great teachers. We think they are shaping them but in reality they shape us
- We grow in love, particularly that unconditional love - loving them no matter what
- Having to step fwd and out into the spotlight
- Children agave me more courage/confidence, overcame many fears and insecurities once became a mum, a shove in the right direction in terms of socialising and joining in rather than being a spectator
- You grow with your children
- You learn to ask for help
- LOVE - didn't realise how much I could love my children and that at times loving children hurts
- Stretched in every area
- Protective of your children
- Commitment - the 24:7 nature of parenting
- Physical - dealing with tiredness
- Awareness that other mums are going through the same/similar feeling/emotions/trials and that all here to help each other
- Always wanted to be a mum, all I ever wanted to be/do so loved that role and identity
- Important to retain some of your own interests and hobbies outside of the home
- Working from home with family business provided an outlet and balance with motherhood
- Got involved in school life/school community
- Comfortable with self and balance of self/motherhood
- Loved being a mother but a lot depends on your personality, some need more time to self and the important thing is to not feel guilty as do need time out and time with husbands important too
- Breaks and time out make you a better mum
- Importance of establishing great babysitters. Lovely to have time out knowing your kids are safely looked after
Q4: Quality time with husbands
- K = Probably could have done this more. could have used babysitter more but tended to do everything as a family. Still struggle with it now in terms of finding and making time for husbands. Recommit to it every now and again but then fades out
- L = Didn't put a lot into it. Would get babysitters occasionally and go out and enjoy QT alone without kids. Still trying
- M = Shared and enjoyed time with the children. Thought husband understood (unspoken) that children required care and time. Husband felt ignored etc. Finally spoke about it and stopped skating around it. Husbands aren't mind readers. Need to ask for help. Verbalise what you feel/need. Importance of communication. Always meant to have more QT with husband than managed to achieve
- L = Rice and noodles. Had many times when money was tight. Learnt ways to go without and make do
- M = Mince and potatoes - "100 Different Ways". Apples - 130 Ways .... STAY OUT OF THE SHOPS. Do your shopping once a week or once a fortnight. It is hard. Buy in bulk the things you use lots of
- K= Budget, plan what you're going to cook in advance. Stick to the list. No clothes or window shopping. Cut out school food/bought snacks. Be happy with where you are at. Learn to be content. Flip perspective to looking at what you DO have rather than what you DON'T have
- M: the whole process of mothering is an adventure, all the milestones and stags. Enjoying things your children can do that you couldn't do such as sing in choir or enjoy drama classes, opens up other worlds. The teenage years. We had a holiday to Tassie, bus broke down, stayed in an old hotel, missed the boat, had 2 days in Melb in a lovely hotel all dressed in daggy jeans and old clothes. That was an adventure. Every stage is an adventure. Gods gift to use to mold and grow and let them fly
- L = 4 children and when they were little would holiday with sister from country and her 4 children so the two of them would take 8 children to the beach at Alex Hdlands and play in the rocks and water. Would take a loaf of bread and buy hot chips and have chip sandwiches with a big tub of ice cream and 8 plastic spoons and that was lunch. The kids are all adults now but still talk about those days. Don't need big things or lots of money to have adventures. Can still have fun and create memories
- K = Adventure in dictionary talks about things that are exciting or extraordinary evens and a willingness to participate in it and take risks etc. That sums up a lot of mothering. Thinks about "camera moments" - those times when you don't have a camera on you but wish you did. Has had some "bad" adventures as a mum too. The time where she "lost" son on the river walk in Brisbane when pregnant with second child, and was frantic, hysterical trying to find him (was safe with a relative). Or when as a toddler her daughter went "visiting" while wathcing brother play soccer at Maleny and searched for her for what seemed like ages. The times where you totally lose it. Trying to think of "good" adventures led K to share stories of camping disasters, rain and storms at Rainbow Beach one year where she made all the family stay in the car and thought they were going to die in this violent storm - "last camping trip ever" - but ended with saying mothering and all this good and bad was the best thing overall and wouldn't change it for the world. An amazing adventure.
Friday, May 01, 2009
Today we started on the new topic of GROWTH.
The overall theme for MOPS this year is "The Adventure of Mothering" and within that theme is the areas of Identity, Growth, Relationships, Help, Perspective and Hope.
We watched a section of the DVD related to Growth and had discussion time centred around these questions - questions like "How have you changed since becoming a mum", "what have you learned about yourself", "what new skills and interests" etc.
We did a fun activity of finishing off the sentence "You Know You're a Mum When ...." and our mentor Julie awarded prizes for the best from each table.
Each table was given a handout with some statements already on the page such as:
You know you're a mum when:
- You count the sprinkles on each kid's cupcake to make sure they're equal
- You have time to shave only one leg at a time
- You hide in the bathroom to be alone
- Your child throws up and you catch it
- Someone else's kid throws up at a party and you are able to keep eating
- You have mastered the art of placing large quantities of pancakes and eggs on a plate without anything touching
- Your child insists that you read Once Upon a Potty out loud in a public place ...and you do
- You pay for a babysitter because you haven't been out with your husband in ages and then spend half the night talking about and checking on the kids
- You hope tomato sauce is a vegetable because its the only one your child eats
- You find youself cutting your husbands sandwich into unusla shapoes
- You fast-fwd through the scene when the hunter shoots Bambi's mother
- You cant bear to give away baby clothes - its so final
- You hear your mothers voice coming out of your mouth when you say "Not in your good clothes!"
Here are some of the responses that were generated .
You know you're a mum when:
- It's 3 o'clock and you haven't had lunch
- You are wearing a pasta necklace - at the plaza
- You get excited over dry undies (the kids not ours!)
- Your handbag is full of kids toys
- You can discuss poos and wees with other mums over morning tea
- You find scraps of chewed up food behind the lounge
- You put a dirty nappy in your handbag
- You find yourself singing along to your kids favourite TV programs
- You know where every toilet is in town
- You make sure everyone else is wearing shoes but then you get to your destination and realise you are not wearing any
- You arrive at your daughters dance concert after spending half an hour on her makeup only to forget to have done yours
- You eat their half chewed spat out food because there's nowhere else to put it
- When having a poo in peace becomes a luxury
- When you're halfway through grocery shopping and your child says " I need to do a poo!"
- When they cling to your leg like a leech
- When you never get a warm dinner/meal
- When the chocolate in the fridge never lasts long enough
- When you skip the lolly and chip aisle when shopping
- When you decide you want to go out somewhere and it takes over an hour to get everything organised
- When you find yourself eating dinner at 5.30
- When you find yourself singling along and knowing all the words to The Wiggles
- When you have replaced your handbag with a nappy bag
- When you are joined by little people in the toilet
- When all your children are immaculately dressed but you find yourself wearing sippers
- When your CD collection int he car consists of Wiggles and Hi 5
- When you can no longer wear white, black or in fact any block color that doesn't hide the stains
- When you hear yourself saying "when I was young"
- When kids shoes are on the wrong feet and its not notices for the whole day and all you think is it's good they could still walk
- When you don't care what your kids have to eat for a main meal as long as they are full and not complaining
- When your pantry is always stocked with spaghetti and baked beans
- When your kids make mud pies with their own urine because they couldn't turn on the tap and all you can think is "how creative!"
- When you wake up and think your bed-hair is totally acceptable for the day
- When "consistency" is a word you admire but can not relate to
- You already know your bum looks big in a certain outfit without even having to ask
- You come to the realisation that coffee is meant ot be drunk cold
- You know any moment that your child could yell out that the person over there is fat (and embarrass you)
- You have to actually go to a Wiggle concert - and pay full price
- You call your children by their siblings names
Lots of creative responses there and I am sure you can see a couple of themes forming around bodily functions, food and drink, shopping dramas, music we are forced to listen to and clothes/shoes. Kinda sums up a lot of mothering .....but then again I am sure we wouldn't have it any other way! After all "You know you are a mum when ....your heart melts at the first I LOVE YOU MUMMY".
If you have any other "You Know You're a Mum" statements please add them via the COMMENTS section under this post. We would love to hear them.
As todays meeting was close to Mothers Day our Creative Activity for today was based around Pampering with DYI Manicures/Nail deco
Morning Tea: Decadence - lots of lovely decadent foods including a chocolate fountain (thanks Nat S) with strawberries and lolly bananas and marshmellows for dunking in the chocolate. Delicious!
1 You have searched me, LORD, and you know me.
2 You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3 You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways.
4 Before a word is on my tongue you, LORD, know it completely.
5 You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too lofty for me to attain.
7 Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence?
8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10 even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around me,”
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day,
for darkness is as light to you.
13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand — when I awake, I am still with you.
19 If only you, God, would slay the wicked! Away from me, you who are bloodthirsty!
20 They speak of you with evil intent; your adversaries misuse your name.
21 Do I not hate those who hate you, LORD, and abhor those who are in rebellion against you?
22 I have nothing but hatred for them; I count them my enemies.
23 Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.
24 See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.
Annual MOPS Participation Fee
When you register for MOPS each year, you will be handed an Annual Participation Fee form, and we ask that if you are able to pay this $10 participation fee, please do so before the end of April 2011.
The payment options are...
1. Direct Debit to MOPS Australia bank account
2. Credit card
3. Cheque payable to MOPS Australia
4. Cash to MOPS@MBC front desk
Thank you, from the MOPS@MBC team.
How did MOPS begin?
It was a Tuesday morning, at about 9.30. They each had faced spilled cereal, tangled hair, and a few had even been forced to change their outfits due to a last-minute baby throw-up on a shoulder or lap. They had driven, or pushed strollers, to the church and had dropped their little ones off in the creche. They had made it!
And now they sat, knees almost touching, in the circle of children's chairs from the Sunday school room. Hands held hot cups of tea and biscuits in utter freedom because this treat did not have to be shared with a child's sticky fingers. Mouths moved in eager, uninterrupted conversation. Eyes sparkled with enthusiasm. Hearts stirred with understanding. Needs were met.
That morning in 1973, was the first morning of MOPS, or Mothers of Preschoolers. Little was it known that from this small beginning in a church in
How did MOPS begin in Australia?
How did MOPS begin in
Nineteen years later and thousands of kilometres away, the same mutual need for sharing was realised by a group of mums with children under school age in
Since its formation in June 2000, MOPS Australia, Inc has grown rapidly and there are currently over 100 groups throughout
How did MOPS begin at MBC?
A Brief History of MOPS at MBC by Karen Askey-Doran (COordinator of MOPS til 2008 and currently Regional Coordinator).
In 1999, the leader of MBC’s women’s ministry caught the vision of MOPS. At that time I was a new Mum with little inclination to help; I was interested but not convicted!
Roughly a year later another meeting was held to generate interest. At this time I had another little baby girl, a 16-month-old toddler and, although I was unaware of it, Post
In 2005 Holly, caught the vision of MOPS and began to sow the seeds of interest throughout the young Mums in our church. Robyn Robertson came to our first meeting and inspired us into action…the seeds Holly planted took hold!
People came slowly at first to fill the positions, it seemed there were a lot of blanks for a long time! Holly was going to be our Coordinator and when she filled out the charter she realised that a Mother of Preschoolers should really fill that role…. So she called me! Very graciously, Holly took a side step into a Mentoring role (very appropriate really).
God was moving in our midst, we had been blessed with an inspired team of 15 Mops Leaders and 9 Moppets Leaders, each one having a testimony about how God had lead them to this ministry!
I suspect that God has big plans for our group. I still feel very inadequate sometimes but I do trust God and I want to serve him and to reach out to Mums who are hurting, to support them. I want to encourage, you know, to build up… to make a difference in people’s lives, especially my children’s!
I know I’m not alone… In Romans 8:28 it says “we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” He planned for my girls, my twins, my battle with PND. He planned for MOPS - at this time - in our church! The door has literally been flung open!
What happens at a MOPS meeting?
When a mum enters a MOPS meeting, she is greeted by a friendly face and escorted to MOPPETS, where her children enjoy their special part of the MOPS program. In MOPPETS, children from infancy through to school age experience a caring environment while they learn, sing, play and make crafts.
Once her children are settled, the MOPS mum joins a program tailor-made to meet her needs. She can grab something to eat and not have to share it! She can finish a sentence and not have to speak in words of two syllables!
The program typically begins with a brief lesson taught by an older mum who's been through the challenging years of mothering and who can share from her experience and from the truths taught in the Bible. Then the women move into small discussion groups where there are no "wrong answers" and each mum is free to share her joys and struggles with other mums who truly understand her feelings. In these moments, long-lasting friendships are often made on the common ground of finally being understood.
From here, the women participate in a craft or other creative activity. For mums who are often frustrated by the impossibility of completing anything in their unpredictable days, this activity is deeply satisfying. It provides a sense of accomplishment and growth for many mums.
Because mums of preschoolers themselves lead MOPS, the program also offers women a chance to develop their leadership skills and other talents. It takes organisation, creativity, and management skills to run a MOPS program successfully.
By the time they finish the MOPS meeting and pick up their children, the mums feel refreshed and better able to mother. MOPS helps them recognise that mums have needs too! And when they take the time to meet those needs, they find they are more effective in meeting the needs of their families.
Meeting the needs of Mothers of Preschoolers
The MOPS program is dedicated to meeting the needs of mothers of preschoolers. These needs have been identified by Elisa Morgan and Carol Kuykendall in their book, What Every Mum Needs:
The need for Identity: Sometimes I'm not sure who I am
The need for Growth: Sometimes I long to develop who I am
The need for Relationship: Sometimes I long to be understood
The need for Help: Sometimes I need to share the load
The need for Perspective: Sometimes I lose my focus
The need for Hope: Sometimes I wonder if there's more to life
Here's How Some Mums Describe MOPS
"MOPS means that I am able to share the joys and frustrations and insecurities of being a mum. Our meetings provide the opportunity to hear someone else say, "I was up all night," or "They're driving me crazy!"
"As a single mum, this is the first group I've felt accepted in for who I am."
'On my first day at MOPS, I knew my life had changed forever! The women made me feel so relaxed. I had a peace I hadn't felt for a long time. They were so caring, pleasant, helpful…the list goes on! I just want to say, "Thank you MOPS!" If it weren't for MOPS, I wouldn't be where I am today.'
MOPS mum, Melbourne
'When I first started MOPS, I was very, very lonely. MOPS gave me a chance to get out of the house which I was grateful for. The talks were very informative. I found out a lot through these talks. My problems seemed to become smaller. When I first started at MOPS, I thought I was a Christian. I wasn't. Through MOPS I can now say, 'I am a Christian.' MOPS to me is not only Mothers of Pre Schoolers, but My Own Private Salvation!'